I've written a lot about deferred gratification, and trade offs, and also about the importance of reading the fine print when making decisions. I recently came across this April 2006 cover article in Harvard Magazine by Craig Lambert discussing how we make economic choices, and the external forces that shape those decisions. It's fascinating reading. What do you think?
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Showing posts with label deferred gratification. Show all posts
Showing posts with label deferred gratification. Show all posts
Friday, May 15, 2009
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Dollars are Made Out of Pennies
I've talked a lot in previous posts about setting priorities, and teaching our children to set priorities or defer gratification. How does that translate into dollars and cents in every day life? How do you get a child (or even many adults) to grasp that skipping a Starbucks Frappuccino or a Snapple can pay for a PS3 game? Sometimes things are easier to understand if you break them into pieces. A big project seems undo-able until you break it down into tasks and milestones. The same is true about prioritizing and saving for an expenditure.
Let's start at the beginning. Dollars are made out of pennies. This is at the core of how money works, but to many it's intangible, especially if they usually pay with invisible money. How does saving 25 cents now translate into that $50 game later? The answer, of course, is to save a quarter here and a dollar there until, over time, you have the $50. Now we're starting to talk about math a child can understand. So, the Frappuccino vs. PS3 game choice isn't a one time trade off, it's a many times trade off. How many times? If the Frappuccino costs about $4, and the game costs about $50 then the answer is more than 10 times. That may sound like a lot of times, but it doesn't have to be the only trade off. More trade offs gets you to $50 faster. I know, this isn't rocket science. Still, I'm always surprised to learn how many people don't get it.
I once read a column in the Wall Street Journal where the author talked about playing "the soda game" with his kids. It's a great idea. Here's how it works. You're at a restaurant. You give your kids a choice: they can order soda or you'll give them whatever the soda costs. Suddenly that $3.00 investment in soda is theirs instead of yours. Most kids (but not all) will happily take the cash in hand. A good lesson, but doesn't work for everyone because there's still the element of "other people's money".
Here's a story my father told me when I was a kid that really makes the point about trade offs and deferred gratification. When he was a little boy, his Aunt and Uncle owned a Five and Dime Store a few towns away. His uncle told his Aunt that she could keep all the change in the drawer at the end of each day for whatever she wanted to buy. She saved the change, and bought a house. Like I said, dollars are made out of pennies.
Do you have examples of trade offs you make? I'd love to hear them.
Let's start at the beginning. Dollars are made out of pennies. This is at the core of how money works, but to many it's intangible, especially if they usually pay with invisible money. How does saving 25 cents now translate into that $50 game later? The answer, of course, is to save a quarter here and a dollar there until, over time, you have the $50. Now we're starting to talk about math a child can understand. So, the Frappuccino vs. PS3 game choice isn't a one time trade off, it's a many times trade off. How many times? If the Frappuccino costs about $4, and the game costs about $50 then the answer is more than 10 times. That may sound like a lot of times, but it doesn't have to be the only trade off. More trade offs gets you to $50 faster. I know, this isn't rocket science. Still, I'm always surprised to learn how many people don't get it.
I once read a column in the Wall Street Journal where the author talked about playing "the soda game" with his kids. It's a great idea. Here's how it works. You're at a restaurant. You give your kids a choice: they can order soda or you'll give them whatever the soda costs. Suddenly that $3.00 investment in soda is theirs instead of yours. Most kids (but not all) will happily take the cash in hand. A good lesson, but doesn't work for everyone because there's still the element of "other people's money".
Here's a story my father told me when I was a kid that really makes the point about trade offs and deferred gratification. When he was a little boy, his Aunt and Uncle owned a Five and Dime Store a few towns away. His uncle told his Aunt that she could keep all the change in the drawer at the end of each day for whatever she wanted to buy. She saved the change, and bought a house. Like I said, dollars are made out of pennies.
Do you have examples of trade offs you make? I'd love to hear them.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Enough is as Good as a Feast
This is my favorite line from "Mary Poppins". Sometimes we glean wisdom from the strangest places, but good economic sense rings true wherever we find it. How much is enough? From a career perspective, it's always current compensation + n. At least in my industry, but that's not the focus of this post.
At the heart of our current economic woes is leverage. Using leverage to spend more than we earn, and losing sight of the difference between what we want and what we need.
So, how much is enough? This question can be applied to so many aspects of our day to day life. How big should a restaurant portion be (seriously, does anyone need a half pound burger?)? How many game systems does a kid need? How many pairs of jeans? How big a house? How fancy or big a car?
I made my children wait a very long time before I finally bought them a PS2 a few years ago. They have a few games. Maybe they get one at Christmas, but that's about it. Until they were teenagers, I refused to buy anything rated "mature". No one became a gaming addict. I was shocked to learn from my boys, that a lot of their friends had all the systems. Why? No wonder they spent all their time playing video games! How much is enough? How can a child learn about making choices or deferred gratification if they've been taught that they can have one of every flavor?
How many pairs of jeans, or handbags, or shoes are enough, and what kind? Does a kid really need 5 pairs of jeans, one for every day of the school week? Will they suffer permanent social outcast status if, heaven forbid, they wear the same pair twice in the same week to school? My family owned a clothing store, so I never wanted for nice clothes. Still, my parents impressed upon me that they still had to pay wholesale to the business for our clothes, so I got what I needed rather than anything I wanted. My father grew up during the depression, and while the family owned a business and was in good financial shape for the times, he wore the faded clothes from the store window. I cringe when I hear about people charging clothes on credit cards, and paying them off over time. Much too much focus on who has what kind of clothes! Don't get me wrong, I love fashion as much as the next person, but I couldn't sleep at night if I was in debt for it. Like my mother used to say: "if it's clean and paid for, it's no body's business".
No discussion of today's economic troubles can skip the how big a house question. This question really has a few parts. How big? What needs to be in it? Is owning always better than renting? Again, how much is enough? A few decades ago, families were frequently larger than is typical today, but they often managed to live in much smaller houses. I've met people who were one of 8 or 9 kids who grew up in modest Cape Cod houses with one bathroom. They turned out fine, and I don't think anyone went dirty. They learned to share, and how to wait their turn. Both excellent attributes. Over the past decade, there has been an explosion of home decorating shows on TV. They've raised the bar to a whole new level in terms of what amenities a house should have. Granite countertops, stainless steel appliances, marble bathrooms, all "necessary" if you want to maintain your home's resale value. Do you need these things? Really? These things are nice, and you might enjoy living in your home with them, but if you can't afford to pay cash for them then you can't afford them. So then save up for them, right? Unfortunately, that's not what happened. Deferred gratification went out the window. Enter the Home Equity Line of Credit (HELOC), and the Mortgage Refinancing with Cash out. Take out a second mortgage on your house? Sounds scary, but that's essentially what a HELOC is, just sugar coated. Refinance your mortgage, and take out your equity to spend on home decorating? I refinanced my mortgage twice, once from 30 years to 20 at a lower rate, and then again from 20 to 15 years at an even lower rate (always fixed rates!). It never occurred to me to sign up to pay more for longer! This of course explains why there are now so many people who once upon a time bought houses they could afford, but now have much bigger (now underwater) mortgages and are in deep trouble. They do, however, in many cases, now have granite counter-tops, wall mounted flat panel TV's, and restaurant grade appliances. None of these will be much consolation if they lose their house. I'll save "should everyone own?" for a future post.
I'll return to my basic premise that you can't spend more than you earn. HELOC's and Refi/Cash-outs are just another example of invisible money. Money, whether visible or invisible, still has to be counted. Borrowing more than you can afford to pay back on a bet that the collateral you put up will keep rapidly increasing in value is just what it sounds like: gambling. This makes a lot of Main Street an awful lot like many on Wall Street. Think about it.
Bottom line, Mary Poppins had it right. Enough is as good as a feast.
Postscript: I had to come back to this article and post this link to an article in today's New York Times entitled "Losing Its Cool at the Mall" http://tinyurl.com/c7wblw, a very interesting piece on the changing spending habits of teens (reported to be down 14%). Although this is bad news for some retailers, particularly Abercrombie & Fitch which is featured in the article, it's good news in terms of growing economic common sense in the teenage population. Is it fleeting?
At the heart of our current economic woes is leverage. Using leverage to spend more than we earn, and losing sight of the difference between what we want and what we need.
So, how much is enough? This question can be applied to so many aspects of our day to day life. How big should a restaurant portion be (seriously, does anyone need a half pound burger?)? How many game systems does a kid need? How many pairs of jeans? How big a house? How fancy or big a car?
I made my children wait a very long time before I finally bought them a PS2 a few years ago. They have a few games. Maybe they get one at Christmas, but that's about it. Until they were teenagers, I refused to buy anything rated "mature". No one became a gaming addict. I was shocked to learn from my boys, that a lot of their friends had all the systems. Why? No wonder they spent all their time playing video games! How much is enough? How can a child learn about making choices or deferred gratification if they've been taught that they can have one of every flavor?
How many pairs of jeans, or handbags, or shoes are enough, and what kind? Does a kid really need 5 pairs of jeans, one for every day of the school week? Will they suffer permanent social outcast status if, heaven forbid, they wear the same pair twice in the same week to school? My family owned a clothing store, so I never wanted for nice clothes. Still, my parents impressed upon me that they still had to pay wholesale to the business for our clothes, so I got what I needed rather than anything I wanted. My father grew up during the depression, and while the family owned a business and was in good financial shape for the times, he wore the faded clothes from the store window. I cringe when I hear about people charging clothes on credit cards, and paying them off over time. Much too much focus on who has what kind of clothes! Don't get me wrong, I love fashion as much as the next person, but I couldn't sleep at night if I was in debt for it. Like my mother used to say: "if it's clean and paid for, it's no body's business".
No discussion of today's economic troubles can skip the how big a house question. This question really has a few parts. How big? What needs to be in it? Is owning always better than renting? Again, how much is enough? A few decades ago, families were frequently larger than is typical today, but they often managed to live in much smaller houses. I've met people who were one of 8 or 9 kids who grew up in modest Cape Cod houses with one bathroom. They turned out fine, and I don't think anyone went dirty. They learned to share, and how to wait their turn. Both excellent attributes. Over the past decade, there has been an explosion of home decorating shows on TV. They've raised the bar to a whole new level in terms of what amenities a house should have. Granite countertops, stainless steel appliances, marble bathrooms, all "necessary" if you want to maintain your home's resale value. Do you need these things? Really? These things are nice, and you might enjoy living in your home with them, but if you can't afford to pay cash for them then you can't afford them. So then save up for them, right? Unfortunately, that's not what happened. Deferred gratification went out the window. Enter the Home Equity Line of Credit (HELOC), and the Mortgage Refinancing with Cash out. Take out a second mortgage on your house? Sounds scary, but that's essentially what a HELOC is, just sugar coated. Refinance your mortgage, and take out your equity to spend on home decorating? I refinanced my mortgage twice, once from 30 years to 20 at a lower rate, and then again from 20 to 15 years at an even lower rate (always fixed rates!). It never occurred to me to sign up to pay more for longer! This of course explains why there are now so many people who once upon a time bought houses they could afford, but now have much bigger (now underwater) mortgages and are in deep trouble. They do, however, in many cases, now have granite counter-tops, wall mounted flat panel TV's, and restaurant grade appliances. None of these will be much consolation if they lose their house. I'll save "should everyone own?" for a future post.
I'll return to my basic premise that you can't spend more than you earn. HELOC's and Refi/Cash-outs are just another example of invisible money. Money, whether visible or invisible, still has to be counted. Borrowing more than you can afford to pay back on a bet that the collateral you put up will keep rapidly increasing in value is just what it sounds like: gambling. This makes a lot of Main Street an awful lot like many on Wall Street. Think about it.
Bottom line, Mary Poppins had it right. Enough is as good as a feast.
Postscript: I had to come back to this article and post this link to an article in today's New York Times entitled "Losing Its Cool at the Mall" http://tinyurl.com/c7wblw, a very interesting piece on the changing spending habits of teens (reported to be down 14%). Although this is bad news for some retailers, particularly Abercrombie & Fitch which is featured in the article, it's good news in terms of growing economic common sense in the teenage population. Is it fleeting?
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